hearthacke

The reason this week's issue has been delayed, and sent out now, instead of the usual 0:01 AM deadline, is because of me. I started four articles and didn't finish one, so this week, instead of dolphins and assorted animals, I'll blabber and complain about something else: hearthackes.

This is a terrible disease, which unlike heart attacks that could either prove fatal or painful for a certain amount of time, it grows like a cancer, it feels like a cramp. You get used to the pain, and as soon as you do, the pain grows another notch stronger. What is this illness caused by? While this is nothing scientific, it is simply an attraction which develops for someone else. This is not to be confused with love, which happens as soon as you see a person (although I'm sure in this case a certain degree of physical attraction does develop, for the beauty seen within is portrayed in the person's features -- especially the eyes).

Hearthacke is very similar to platonic love, even if the feelings in the latter are there from the start. In hearthackes you slowly learn to love the person as you start to know them better. Just like a puzzle, and as each piece is discovered and placed, the image that is revealed in front of us becomes each time more beautiful.

And then the pain starts.

The friendship seems like a limitation. The other person has no problems and sends no signals, while your feelings about them which have just been awaked are incredibly strong. But they still are your friends; a person you've been joking around and done things with, much like a brother or a sister. This is a common mistake, the one of confusing a good friendship for something more. And if you try to make it something more, at times you end up ruining the friendship completely.

There isn't much you can do in this case, other then relaxing and getting a few things straight in your head. What you are calling love, could just be a deep care you have for them and you are mis-interpreting it. If you think it's necessary to tell them how you feel, be prepared that they will not feel the same way, and that your beautiful friendship might be forever shattered. Some people tend to run away when they find out how their friend feels for them.

Enjoy what you have: the friendship. From it you will learn many important things for an eventual partner in your life. There is no use for desperation and crying. They will only make you tense, and push the other person away, since you are not able to make them feel comfortable anymore.

Even if you might feel that you are lying in a bush of thorns, remember that roses have thorns as well. And if they are meant to be roses, one day they will bloom.